It's now 2008 and I'm playing catch up.....life has been so busy and my blog has sadly remained untouched. Here's my first entry in an attempt to fill in the gaps:
A wedding.....




I was very fortunate to be invited to a Shinto wedding in October. A unique and wonderful experience. I felt very privileged, but very conspicuous as I was the only westerner in attendance! I didn't know anyone there except for my lovely Japanese friend Naomi who arranged for me to go. I met the bride (Rika) afterwards and thanked her for allowing me to come. Following the ceremony there was a celebration which I did not attend, but Naomi kindly gave me photos to complete my education in Japanese wedding customs!
On arrival before the ceremony there is the serious business of giving money (usually around $300 or more per person) to the bride and groom - a special ornate card/envelope is used to present your money to the family and you sign a book, or register, to indicate that you were a guest at the wedding. After these formalities the guests gather quietly and process to the temple and form a "guard of honour" either side of a red carpet leading up to the temple steps -the groom's guests and family on one side, and the bride's on the other. Interestingly, the bride's guests are female and the groom's are male. Apart from family members the bride and groom may only each invite members of the same sex!
The bride and groom, accompanied by temple monks playing special instruments, form a procession in to the temple. The bride is protected by a beautiful big red parasol. Guests then fall in line and follow the wedding party in.
The ceremony is quite short and involves little or no dialogue. There is lots of chanting, temple maidens dancing, and sake drinking by the bridal party. Immediately after the ceremony the guests gather again in front of the temple for an official group photo with the newlyweds. I felt very obvious in the photo as I ended up in the middle right behind the bride!
Invited guests attend the wedding celebration afterwards and the bride and groom change from traditional Japanese bridal costume into western bridal dress. The bride's Japanese dress can either be a very formal and traditional white kimono with white hood or a very ornate red with gold thread kimono with white hood. She wears her hair swept up with the hood worn over the top to cover the "jealousy horns" common to all Japanese women!
Following the celebration, the guests are presented with gifts from the bride and groom - these are usually quite expensive and and can range from designer china to bath products, food or even gift vouchers. Rika and her groom presented traditional Japanese foods and a gift catalogue for guests to select their own gifts.
Certainly different from western weddings!